Most of us were students before, some of us still are. If you reflect on that period of your life you may find that a lot of your time was wasted due to lack of focus and procrastination. We leave the essays for the day before it’s supposed to be handed in, we study for the exams the night of the exam, we don’t join the societies or the clubs until the year that we are about to graduate, we forget to make friends until it’s too late as everyone had found himself or herself a person or persons to be friends with. This phenomenon is majorly due to something called “giving up” or “homesickness”.
Many students do not realize that they are homesick, they blame the university because “they didn’t help me”, they blame their classmates because “they refused to give me notes”, they blame the weather “it’s always raining” and they blame their parents “they sent me here”.
Right from the start we need to realize that when we go abroad we are not going to have an easy time, because back home was the heaven that we had lived in where even a glass of water will come to our hand all we need is to whistle, when we live abroad, we have to get our own glass of water as well as everything else that we need in our life, like cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, paying our bills, tidying up our room, making sure we have enough groceries to last us during the exams, making sure we have enough money in the bank to pay our bills .
A fantastic amount of time needs to be kept aside for pre-planning everything. We need to do extra reading, we need to do our assignments, and we need to play our sport. We need to have time for our friends, and time for our studies and time for our own mental balance. Basically, it’s us and us alone who can help ourselves. There is no mum and dad and that is the beauty of being on our own abroad.
I cannot solve all your problems as you are the one responsible for solving them, however here are a few tips that may help in solving your homesickness (Otago University research):
Please read these points prior to traveling, and ensure that you are aware of this dilemma, as the last thing you want to do is to return home halfway through the semester feeling sad and losing a year of your life.
Don’t give up!
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